Things actually improved then – Maria was respected at work, and she enjoyed the new freedom it gave her. But, the heart of the definition and arecovery lies not in the 'other person'---no matter howmuch we believe it does.

For any men reading this review (I can't imagine there will be too many), I will give my strongest recommendation to Dr Robert Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy, which is essentially a co-dependence book aimed at men. I was introduced to the concept of codependency by my therapist -- which she described as letting others' feelings dictate our own -- and ever since, it has felt like a door has unlocked. Not helpful: the content was pretty repetitive after awhile, and there was too much talk about God for my taste, especially towards the end. Chapter 2: Detaching from the problem person in your life can give you clarity about your own needs. This ground-breaking book is even more relevant today, as readers confront new, urgent challenges with greater self-awareness, than it was when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago.Jessica’s friends offered to take her to Al-Anon – an offshoot of Alcoholics Anonymous that’s geared toward the family members of alcoholics – but this made Jessica angrier. I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again. I record parts of podcasts using the Voice Memos app on my iPhone as a “note-taking” process and revisit helpful content and practical recommendations that would be beneficial to review from time to time. The discussion in each chapter can be reduced to something like this: "This is a behaviour you do, which causes a lot of pain to you and others.

I have my reasons for giving it a middle-of-the-road rating that are completely my own, which I will get into, but that does not discount the fact that this workbook will give anyone reading it a good dose of self-love and stable steps to guide you through almost any obstacle. Melody Beattie's compassionate and insightful look into codependency – the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another – has helped to guide millions of readers towards the understanding that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. I feel annoyed and disrespected in light of these perspectives being so heavily 'pushed' - from the cover I had no idea that this was so primary to the entire contents of the book. While there may be a steep learning curve at first, meeting these needs will be a fulfilling and rewarding journey.This book will prompt you to climb the highest point and have a broad overview of how your life should be structured. This book would be the tipping point in making sense of my most recent experience, and I now recognized a blind spot. If you are unaware of the calamity induced by the lack of independent spirit, then you’re really putting yourself in a secondary-position. Nėra jis labai blogas, visur eina suprast apie ką kalbama, bet vietomis smarkiai nesušukuotas / nedaredaguotas. Reflecting/looking back after having read this book, and I do feel very good, and positive after all.

That’s when she realized that other people weren’t the reason her life was a mess – she was just using them as an excuse to avoid her own problems. I realize I would give my opinion unsolicited, telling my ex what she could or should do at work when she was promoted into a management position. I realized that I can make decisions and not have to worry if my opinion is what other people may think or want.After years of focusing on the other people in their lives, they had no clue what they themselves were feeling. Everyone is going to have a different way of approaching these activities and getting through this book. This revised edition includes an all-new chapter on trauma and anxiety – subjects Beattie has long felt need to be addressed within the context of codependency – making it even more relevant today than it was when it first entered the international conversation over thirty-five years ago.

I found myself wishing for a book that was written for a wider audience and in more broad terms, with less focus on the alcoholism angle. Many of us can quickly tell what someone else is feeling, why that person is feeling that way, how long they've felt that way, and what that person is probably going to do beccause of that feeling. iš knygos nieko labai naujo neišmoksi, bet žengti žingsnį atgal ir nereaguot impulsyviai, atpažinti savo gliukus visai galima pasimokyt.

Melody Beattie’s compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another— has helped millions of readers understand that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. While the 13 steps are good, and the activities in the first few chapters were insightful (writing my history, working a step) I just don't feel like it's resonating with me.