Thanks! I'm sure that will be very useful for someone in the US. It sounds like a great organization. brainwashing" the kids to make the allegations. In today's courts, 90% of fathers, who have been accused of molesting their children, are awarded custody. 58,000 children PER YEAR are handed to their identified abuser. I hope that you will speak out on behalf of these victims. I suspect a father with pediphilia intentions with his 18 month old daughter, but how do I prove it? He has isolated her from everyone except himself and his father. Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so happy to hear that you (and hopefully your siblings) have healed and moved on as mush as one could. – In your story it sounds as though it was pretty easy for you to move on and leave your father in the past, I wonder, was it really that easy for you, or were there times of emotional hardship for you? a) be realistic about how common dangerous people are (they ARE our dads, our teachers, our cousins, our neighbours) and

Leigh, I feel so much pain for you. I have the same questions about my mother. While our dad didn’t sexually abuse us, he was very physically abusive in other ways and my mom always let it happen. When they divorced, she didn’t even fight for us. She just let this psycho have custody of her little girls and last month, out of the blue she said to me, “I hope you didn’t feel abandoned”. (!!!!!) WTF? OF COURSE I felt abandoned! You let this pervert abuse all of us physically and then move us to Central America where he abused little boys in front of me! Mothers are not always the loving protective saints people paint them out to be, so just know that I understand your pain. I hope you are able to find some peace. strangely (and to show how well grooming can work) a child spoke up to his parents because he was jealous of the attention his younger sister got from my father. Tbanks for sharing…what you have said will prove helpful to all those who are encountering this issue either as a victim or relative…It shows that you one can move beyond the poor choices their parents have made.

He abused my closest cousin for many years and recently found out he abused many many more, including more cousins and close neighbours. He is a monster. I don’t speak to him anymore and he will never see his grandchildren again. He is exactly how you describe your dad, extremely intelligent, charming, unempathetic, controlling, manipulative…a psychopath. Like your dad, he hasn’t been charged with anything yet; here’s hoping someone has the courage to press charges so he can finally pay for what he did as he shows NO remorse for his actions. The rest of us ( siblings, mom and spouses) remain strong as he’ll never break that bond. They are his actions, not mine. Sad that I have to teach my 4 year old about “who’s allowed to touch your penis” though. Wow! Thank you for sharing your story! You sound like such a strong person and it sounds like you used it to help you and inform you for parenting and protect your children (also to help inform you in dating). My reaction would have been so different than yours; way to be empowered! Thank you!

Hi again, I just googled signs of a pedophile and WOW, this article describes my dad with about 85% accuracy http://crime.about.com/od/sex/p/pedophile.htm. Maybe this helps more? My dad always targeted shy boys, always used money, presents, building model planes, etc as a way in. He had a sexless marriage with my mother…really just a cover to make himself look more 'normal'. He has almost no friends and the ones he does have are meek and kind of scared of him. I could go on! I hope this article helps you. Thank you for sharing, this was really brave of you. You wrote "I am less worried about my kids because I know the anatomy of a pedophile/psychopath and can help them navigate the world and recognize those danger signs."

Allie thanks for your comment and I think you make a very important point – that our parents choices have little to do with the person that we are and the possibilities available to us in life. We get SOOO caught up in our society around these myths of familial relationships, but the truth is no matter WHO your family is made up of and no matter what you must endure, every day that you wake up you get to choose how the story goes. *Especially* if you are a financially independent adult. This book given to husbands’ sister, as proxy her parents’ malignant narcissism, family cult leader. Cyberbullies, cyber harassment as she became her parents to continue molesting her adult children and next generations. Yet, she’s cremated and gone as the rest of us live with internal scares of these monsters deliberately enjoyed others suffering. This book will be read by her family and hope it helps to heal. So yeah, it was super hard in some respects but that's life, right? Life requires courage. Life asks us to stand up for ourselves. So I did. And I don't miss him because he was never a father to begin with. He was a keeper. At no point, even when I was living alone with him for years, could he even name my three closest friends. I was like an "it" that lived in his house. He never knew me. And I'm fine with that. We get very caught up in what our family/relations are 'supposed' to be but I don't buy that. My true family are the people I've chosen to be a part of my life and provide the support I need. I hope this answers your question! And thanks for reading. This was a really moving post, and I too have to commend 'Renee' for her bravery. I don't have any personal experiences with abuse, but it's certainly something I think about with a baby boy, and I am so grateful that you shared her story.