The text even says that a determined young man can use a female messenger if his chosen beloved ignores his advances and is not accessible to a male go-between. The text does caution, however, saying that whenever possible, the young man should make his own advances as his courageous display is more likely to win him favor. Earning a Wife The second on how to behave in private– dealing with sexual union and pleasing one’s lover. Let us have a look in more detail at some of the benefits of this ancient text’s wisdom: This position is probably so named because the act of lifting and spreading her legs causes everything to open up for him, allowing deep penetration. This is one of the most recommended sexual positions as it gives great pleasure to both partners. It is also very arousing because the woman surrenders herself completely and offers her sexual soul to her lover. More than Just Sex

Piercing is not, as one might assume, referring to sexual penetration. Piercing, according to the work, is when a woman presents a man with a clear view of her breasts, and he takes hold of them. Piercing and touching are the only two ways in which people unknown to each other might be able to interact physically. While many of the activities and suggestions are specific to ancient India, there is still much in the Kama Sutra that can be applied to modern life. Including, of course, the advice on giving and taking pleasure in bed! To make it even better, when they’re thrusting, start doing some Kegels, you will be squeezing his penis tight, which will be a pleasurable sensation for both of you,” she adds.Anything involving bondage leaves you vulnerable to the power and control of your partner,” she says. “So if you want to feel submissive, let yourself be tied up and unable to move.” The Layer Cake is an intimate grinding move allows for maximum clitoral stimulation, and believe us, you’ll see why. The receiving partner can lie flat on top, either facing towards or away from the penetrating partner (both are equally fun), and grasp the edge of the bed to get some friction going. And this position is nothing if not versatile! The penetrating partner can also be on top, using their arms to pump and grind. The truth is, a blowjob can be whatever you want it to be — assuming your partner is willing to go there as well, that is. If you like being in control, there are ways to make receiving a blowjob feel more dynamic; if you prefer your partner to be the one in control, there are ways to make a blow job feel more like you’re being dominated. The same applies if you’re the one giving a blowjob, too.

While most people think the Kama Sutra is all about sex, it's actually about the philosophy and theory of love. It covers topics including finding a life partner, flirting and the nature of love. There is a large section on courtesans: how to find and engage them, how much and when to pay them, and what to expect for your money. Although this could be construed as a misogynistic chapter, the text recommends being polite and respectful to the courtesans for no other reason than civility and good manners. Courtesans are not at all looked down on for their career choices, instead, they are mentioned as being providers of a vital service. Sexual Union As a foreplay position, the Mirage goes both ways—inviting both you and your partner to get in on the action. Start by lying down with your knees bent and your feet planted on the ground (or the bed, or the couch—you know the drill.) Invite your partner to kneel, straddling your head, facing your legs. From there, they can bend over to reach your genitals—which should, in turn, give you all kinds of access to theirs. From there, they can stimulate you with their fingers or a sex toy, and you can go down on them. Temptation Of course, the Kama Sutra is best known as a picture book of sexual positions – some people even today have the erroneous impression that there is no text at all. But the Kama Sutra in its original form never had any pictures included at all. There are plenty of ways to embrace the power play here, so take some time to talk to one another about what would feel the most exciting (and don’t hesitate to troubleshoot and adjust as you go, especially if its your first time adding this kind of play to your sex life!)Details Leaning forward, the woman lies on edge of bed, resting on the hip and forearm while her partner enters her vagina from behind. The woman can keep her thighs together for a tighter hold on the penis. But if she opens her legs, the clitoris is exposed for stroking while man thrusts from behind. “You’re getting that deeper penetration like doggy style, but this may be an easier and more comfortable position,” says Bradbury. If you’re a fan of cowgirl and girl-on-top, this position will be a natural fit for you. “While it’s not the easiest of positions, it gives the partner on top ultimate control and deep penetration from a different angle,” says Nelson. “You should also self-stimulate the clitoris at the same time to have a possible blended orgasm.” We recommend the Cowgirl/Cowboy for the analfirst-timer, since the receiving partner controls the pace and depth of penetration. You’re also face-to-face with your partner, allowing for lots of intimacy as well as easy communication. There are nonphysical factors to consider, too. Take intimacy, for example. For many people, especially women, intimacy can lead to better sexual experiences because partners are comfortable and trusting enough to ask for what they desire and to try new things. The Uncloak the Clitoris sex position is here to remind you that you’re never too cool for hand stuff. Another reminder: the vast majority of people with vulvas can’t orgasm from penetration alone (which is totally fine — and orgasm isn’t the point of good sex anyway!). But if you are looking to help your partner get off, keeping your hands free to give their clitoris some love is an expert move.