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This ground-breaking book is even more relevant today, as readers confront new, urgent challenges with greater self-awareness than when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago. She married a former alcoholic who was also a prominent and respected counselor and had two children with him. Codependent No More by Melody Beattie is a self-help guide that explores how to recognize codependency and overcome it. I still think we all have some traits described in this book and if you take a step back anyone can find some tidbits in there to munch on.It might put some people off that it is based on the Al-Anon principles of 12 steps but if you can substitute the word of the problem that you are involved with in place of the word alcohol then it will become enlightening for you. I feel conflicted in giving this a rating as the good stuff is at 4-5, but the stuff that bothered me - which was unfortunately a lot - was around 1-2 . I think the baseline message was articulated very well, in terms of what the core dynamics of codependency are - essentially, caring too much about, and being too influenced by, what other people think, want, etc.

There's a bit too much emphasis on coping with living with people with addiction (mainly alcoholism) and God is mentioned a bit, but those are easily adapted or ignored if your beliefs lie elsewhere. as well as making it clear just how much alcoholism and substance use underpins the framing of codependency through the entire book. A good rule of thumb is: You need to detach most when it seems the least likely or possible thing to do.

Even if you do not identify as codependent (and now I know I do not), you may find, as I did, that learning more about codependence helps put family relationships into perspective. This is a real must for anyone who is trying to change the life of another (especially family member)and failing miserably. The husband, dependent on the alcohol, is hampered in his ability to overcome alcoholism because of his codependent wife. Man labai patinka pavyzdžiai, kaip Jėzus padeda kitiems, bet tik tada, kai žmonės jo paprašo, ir padaro tai, ko jie prašo, o ne apipila neprašyta pagalba ir reikalauja dėkoti jam 24/7.

Per visą knygą ji dalina patarimus, kaip atsiriboti nuo kitų žmonių problemų, kaip rūpintis savimi, kaip išlįsti iš nuolatinės kaltės ir savigraužos, kurios būna nemotyvuotos, nulemtos to per didelio (per didelio = kai jau tu dėl to kankiniesi, o ne džiaugiesi) susitelkimo į kitus. It is possible to communicate both of these at the same time - many people manage it easily and respectfully. Yesterday I picked up the Codependent No More Workbook and plan on going through that through the course of this week. A pioneering voice in self-help literature and the recovery movement, Melody Beattie is the author of many bestselling books—including The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, Beyond Codependency, and The Codependent No More Workbook .They are helping you to "rescue" yourself and stop worrying about the things you can't control, and this book serves as an excellent tool to steer you in the right path. I have waited about a week since finishing it to "test the water" and see if the small changes I made to my behavior would help, and I have realized that I can still feel happy, even in the midst of what seemed to be the most hopeless of situations.