And one of the nicest things about all of this is that your chastened man, driven to the far edge of horniness through your sexy teasing, denial and feminine empowerment, will love every moment of it. If his fantasy is one you can enjoy too, then by all means indulge him occasionally, if you so choose. Piercing Variants A variant of the tube-type chastity devices relies on the man’s penis being pierced; such devices are designed (or supplied with special-purpose accessories) to lock to the piercing.

So after a while, the fact that he is locked into a chastity device will fade into the background – but for him, at least, it will seldom disappear completely. If the supplier or manufacturer refuses to stand behind their product by providing information on its safe use, then choose an alternative device. How many myths, legends and folk tales include a hero who is motivated toward self-sacrifice on behalf of the woman he desires, and who thus endures all kinds of difficulties and hardships at her behest?

Other times, they can constrain our options for happiness, by forcing us into counterproductive modes of living.

Once you receive the device, follow the manufacturer’s instructions and keep a careful eye on things as your man ‘settles in’. Steel devices will certainly trigger airport security systems, so plastic (including plastic locks) may be a better choice if your man does much traveling by air. Quite the opposite if you just give yourself permission to embrace some of those things, it can make them even nicer. You will have plenty of opportunities to confirm this for yourself as you gradually learn to harness (and fulfill) his sex drive in the service of your own.

Go through the teasing part of Exercise One, if you wish – permitting him to give you as many orgasms as you desire.

I would recommend them for anyone who is reluctant to discuss the idea with their significant other. I did try to encourage my KH to make use of the service because she has not joined this site and I thought that may be easier for her. Another answer comes from the ideas of philosophers like JeanPaul Sartre, who taught us the value of embracing desire without necessarily acting on it. You might want to think of the release period as a time-out, provided for a specific purpose, after which he is expected to submit to imprisonment once more – in the same chaste condition that he was in when you released him. She has since played the keyholding role with me off and on, but has enjoyed it so much that she commented how glad she was in having the idea to purchase a chastity device after reading Ms.The author establishes that Chastity often comes from the husband and might express some hidden submissive nature. See the section Beyond the Bedroom for information on some of the wider changes that male chastity can usher in, if you so desire. If you unlock your man for unsupervised sport (or for any other reason), then you obviously need to be able to count on him not to abuse your trust (in other words, himself! If your man has told you that he never masturbates, he’s almost certainly being less than honest (don’t worry too much” this is most likely the result of embarrassment rather than any other true desire to deceive). Your chastened man’s need to please and serve you arises from his submissiveness, which is intimate linked to his sexuality, and which increases with his denial.