Is it all about your pleasure, your validation of your right to sexual pleasure, and your reliance on easy medical fixes for STIs? Enjoy the Literary Salon podcast's Book of the Week where each bite-sized episode offers an exclusive taster of a new book. The stories were fun and interesting, but then he started going on about how not wearing condoms is cool and part of the queer experience and that implying that getting STIs is just a badge of honour and I just couldn't get on board with it. That aside, I do commend the effort put in this book to destigmatize sex, STI's, sexualities and relationship types. Like, for example, anything deep about his relationships or about his emotional life beyond feelings of anxiety.

Whoever prepared this manuscript doesn’t know how “blond” and “blonde” work, or how many exclamation points is too damn many, or how to use hyphens, for starters; also, overall the prose needs tightening up. Cocky, comic, and clearly heartfelt, Boyslut offers a vision of non-toxic modern masculinity that allows for all the quirks, kinks, and fetishes one's dirty mind desires. By completing your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and authorise Audible to charge your designated card or any other card on file. Through therapy, socialization, and life experience he explores a journey to self-acceptance that assures us it's okay (and healthy) to have questions and doubts, but also insists we don't let them get in the way of living our lives.

I’ll take it a step further and say that it is not helpful to think of gender as a thing that needs to be abolished. He is also the founder and editor-in-chief of Boyslut zine, which publishes real sex stories from kinksters worldwide. I’m not flippantly not using condoms or convincing people not to use condoms, or slipping it in because they didn’t say no.

Instead, it's mostly about the importance of shamelessly claiming a bisexual identity, especially for men, and also shamelessly claiming what you want (and don't want) related to sex - lightly threaded through with Mr. Zane holds partnerships with Grindr, Scruff, and Pornhub, and is currently in development on a TV show that explores sex across the United States. I had been put off by what seemed like braggadocio and reminders of a demeaning part of my own life.

If you can’t rely on those who love you when you are struggling, then indeed, you might as well remain single. In a world where sexuality and masculinity are often misunderstood and conflated, Zachary Zane manages to use his own unique experiences to knock down stigmas and expand what it means to have a healthy relationship with sex.

Thanks to Zach’s journey and its fraysexual, polyamorous endpoint we bisexual men - including those in monogamous long-terms relationships like me - can find company and validation and not the all-too-common AA-type sharing he once attended in Boston 😱.We are free to feel attracted to whomever or how many people we like, we are free to enjoy pleasure and give it to others. I tell Zach that I enjoyed the irreverent sexiness and authenticity of Boyslut, but some issues nag at me as a 79-year-old woman who came of age sexually in a very different and more restrictive time. His work has been published in The New York Times, Rolling Stone, The Washington Post, GQ, Playboy, Slate, Cosmo, Bustle, VICE, NBC, Dazed, The Daily Beast, and many others. I seriously delayed writing this review because I didn't want to seem judgy, and I know that I'm going to come across that way.