Breakdown in communication, such as avoidance of all discussion of the death or misunderstandings about it, is often associated with marital distress. 3. When a baby lives only a short time or dies before birth due to miscarriage, stillbirth or a painful decision to end the pregnancy, people may assume that the loss is not important. This is simply not the case. To my son, who left this world too early – I will keep the memory of you alive and I’ll never stop being angry at life for driving us apart.” When you are feeling lost in greyness, there are many other bereavement support organisations ready to listen.

Incongruent grieving in which father and mother react to the infant or child death with different levels of intensity and for different periods of time—women typically grieve more intensely and for longer periods of time than do their spouses [ 13]. One study reported continued marital distress from such variations in grief as long as two to four years after the child's death supporting the enduring nature of such stresses [ 57]. 5. provide information in multiple formats (e.g., written, audio/visual, Internet based, group meeting and larger event) for children and adolescents about the nature of grief following the death of a sibling and ways to cope with it; 2. Can studies move beyond outcomes such as grief symptoms, depression, and social support to include broader variables of self-esteem, personal growth, and flexibility [ 4, 105]? 12. Medical advances have prolonged the dying process for children as well as adults, making terminal illness in children longer and more complex, often requiring parents to make difficult decisions about end-of-life care. Preliminary research evidence suggests that family bereavement may be adversely affected by the inability to reduce suffering during the child's dying process [ 12]. Do not weep for those who have found death’s embrace early, for they weep for us that linger on in this mortal world of pain.” ― Stewart Stafford

Stillbirths. A stillbirth turns an anticipated joyful event into tragedy. Stillbirth can assume two forms. The more common occurs when the baby was viable and then dies during labor or delivery. In the second type the fetus dies in utero and the mother is forewarned of the death days or even weeks before the delivery. Particularly difficult and stressful for the mother is carrying a dead fetus when movement has ceased. Parents often describe these situations as the simultaneous birth and death of the child. SUDI is the term used when an infant (0-24 months) dies unexpectedly and suddenly. The cause of death is unknown from the outset. A number of studies have investigated the marital relationship and tried to identify gender differences that may account for conflict and distancing between couples. These and other common problems between parents after the death of a child include the following: 1. I hurt inside” requires comfort, consolation, and validation of the child's unique experience of the loss. This is a particularly challenging task for grieving parents and may be assisted by the use of peer support groups. 2.

We lost our 24 years old son to a gastric cancer recently. Unfortunately, our story is also a story of medical mistreatment and arrogance... And it just pushes us with our unbearable situation to the brink. We did have some wonderful doctors, real experts and exceptional personalities who were doing magic. But quite a few doctors have done the best they could to end our son's story the way it ended. Insufficient alertness and focus that led to months of delayed diagnosis, serious injuries caused during diagnostic procedures that required unnecessary surgeries, heartless communication of tough facts, lightly-taken supervision of questionable approaches of younger colleagues, to-be MDs... Home| Find support| I am a bereaved parent| Your loss| Grieving for an adult child Grieving for an adult child should have been a wonderful year for myself and my lovely family. My daughter gave birth to our second grandchild, a little girl Called Faith. I was 50 this year and decided to celebrate with a family holiday. We did indeed have a lovely holiday together.

In memory of a special son – It’s sometimes hard to know why some things happen as they do for so much joy and happiness was centered around you. It seems so hard to comprehend that you’re no longer here but all the happy memories will help to keep you near. You’re thought about with pride, Son with each mention of your name death cannot change a single thing the love will still remain.” There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.” — Washington Irving