This is the love that makes you act stupidly and when it ends, it takes away a significant part of your being. This love teaches you that love is more than just feelings; and also that love is not forced but comes naturally when you find the right person. Falling In Love The Second Time The first stab of love is like a sunset, a blaze of color — oranges, pearly pinks, vibrant purples…” – Anna Godbersen Love isn’t about finding your “soulmate” or trying to match personalities, love is about finding someone (or letting someone find you) who loves in the same way that you do. Sure, there will always something special about our first love, and perhaps deep down (somewhere we should probably steer clear of) we can all find something ironically exceptional about our second, but we’ll only truly find total contentment with the third.

A glimpse into this book in my own words: We don't always learn the necessary lessons that our relationships are trying to teach us and so we may experience the same type of love multiple times, usually the karmic love. Our karmic love, she explains, is supposed to break us to make room for our last love. It's the one that teaches us, should we allow ourselves to see it, what true real love is all about. It's the one out of the three types that is the most tumultuous. And so our karmic love is not supposed to last, it's supposed to help make us accountable for our actions, and face our feelings. And maybe there’s something special about our first love, and something heartbreakingly unique about our second…but there’s also just something pretty amazing about our third.

We are so consumed with making The Karmic Love work that we often fail to question whether it should work. As painful as it is to accept, this love that felt so right in the beginning is actually all wrong. While I generally consider experiencing the phases personally as a better way to learn about love, it is totally fine to learn your lessons in a milder way. The lessons you learn about love from the three stages of love prepare you for what love should be. How long would it take to find the third love? This theory supposes that we only fall in love once in our entire lifetime and that the rest are not exactly “falling in love”. This theory believes that we all have a soulmate, and even when things do not go on between us and our soulmate, we still have a place for them in our hearts.

The author writes in a way that speaks to you personally. And it did speak to me. So there are three kinds of love you face in your love life - the torrential first love with our Soulmate, the even more torrential love with our Karmic Partner, and the Final One - also known as the Twin Flame. The second time we fall in love is definitely considered as the hardest. It is the one to teach us big life lessons about ourselves and how we want/need to be treated and consequently, loved. It is the one that hurts us to the core, I’m afraid, as there tend to be sufficient amounts of manipulation or lies even involved. This is the love where we come together with someone and it just fits—there aren’t any ideal expectations about how each person should be acting, nor is there pressure to become someone other than we are.

Falling In Love The First Time

At times you’ll think that you’re both fated to be together forever. At other times, you’ll want to bite each other’s heads off. People who read books instead of watching Netflix late at night often have these 9 character traits After having realised what love might be from your first, and after having realised what love shouldn’t be from your second, your third is by far the best, as it’s the love that makes you believe in love. The three-time love theory also has its own shortcomings in that we may not fall in love only three absolute times in our entire lifetime. These three times can represent three phases of love with several love experiences in between.

With this kind of love, trying to make it work becomes more important than whether it actually should. This is the love where we come together with someone and it just fits—there aren’t any ideal expectations about how each person should be acting, nor is there pressure to become someone other than we are.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein There's some language to deal with. Why is there a need for that, especially since this is supposed to be a non fiction? You know, you find the one that is ‘just right’. Everyone will be jealous of you at parties because you’re the ‘perfect couple’.