Of course, this is all assuming my own innocence, and translated to the LW, assuming the husband’s innocence too. I consider my 35 years with Bob the ride of a lifetime and worth every moment of laughter and tears. I know a lot of you wouldn’t assume that your SO cheating, which is a good sign for your relationship, but that doesn’t mean that it’s irrational for her to do so.

You see, over the years I've secretly become addicted to crossdresser porn and began getting my own panties, bras, wigs, jewelry and makeup and really enjoy the way I look. If your wife still wears Victoria's Secret underwear after all these years and she can still look pretty good doing so, be grateful! Good point about there being a distinction between finding clean underwear that may have gotten mixed in with the laundry somehow and dirty underwear found in the bottom of the hamper.

He proceeds to tell me all about his day; he has gone for coffee, he has run in at this hospital to pick up/drop off, this doctor's office, another hospital; gone for lunch, run errands. Thanks, Virginia - ah yes - just one of many "magical" moments~ Good to see you - haven't been on much these days. Of course, a husband\’s cross-dressing tends to have a less-than-soothing effect on a wife, especially if she comes home expecting her husband and walks in on some poorly assembled June Cleaver. I can’t imagine having some mystery underwear in my hamper and not driving myself nuts trying to figure out where they came from – even for my own peace of mind, not to mention the spouse who also wants an explaination.

If you both can’t make it a priority to work through your problems — and this is a big problem — then perhaps it IS better that you MOA now before you invest more time and energy into a relationship that has no future. I know we’re all assuming that the thong belongs to a women, but unless you check the label, it could very well be a male thong. Has there been a history of your friends being privy to information about your husband before you know the full story?Lucky it's just a fantasy - I know it's wrong but it turns me on more than anything else I've ever known! Have your friends ever expressed concern about your husband or your relationship based on what they’ve seen from the outside (versus what you’ve told them)? Men are given every thing else BUT we have had our beauty and sensuality and eloquence either ripped away from us or somehow perverted into an ugly macho character of what it would be normally. I mean, they were in the dirty clothes hamper… if she REALLY wants to know whether a man or woman was wearing them, she could do a sniff test.